So every guy you are infatuated with… never falls in love with you and always picks the other girl?
Ah, good question. I will examine the last 3 boys I have really liked/written about on here (this ranges back to June of last year) to give you an idea, starting with the farthest back one:
1. I liked him all summer and we hung out many times, almost always in a group though and I always had a hard time getting a read on how he felt towards me. I was then gone for a few months in the fall, but when I got back I saw him a lot around the christmas season and then at the end of January I told him I liked him and we went on a couple dates. I pretty quickly realized that I had been on crack to like him though, as he was pretty much a jerk. Not directly but it was little things. Like, how we went out the day before my birthday and I mentioned to him numerous times what the next day was and then all day he didn’t do so much as send me a text or a facebook message. Two days after my birthday he sent me a text saying “happy birthday sorry im late” and I was all
I realized that he was kind of a deadbeat too and that we just weren’t as compatible as I’d hoped. So I ended that before it really started.
2. Was the boy I met while street canvasing. He seemed great, he had blue eyes and dimples and had an amazing singing voice. However, again, I failed to really get to know him before delving into things. We saw each other very sparsely and so I allowed myself to get way ahead about things and filled in way too many blanks with my own imaginings. When we finally went on a date he drank a lot and smoked a lot and was generally just kind of weird (he’d make really strange comments about things and more than once I caught him lying about stuff). I told him that things couldn’t work between us and that he needed to get his life together (turns out his Dad’s on coke and his mom’s abusive and basically he’s pretty messed up psychologically)
3. Is this great great great boy and I’m really trying to fully get to know him before jumping into stuff, so you can tell that I’m learning my lesson. So far there are no warning signals and we seem to agree on all the major issues I can think of and are impossibly compatible. However, he is trying to focus on other things rather than dating right now, so I don’t know how things will turn out between us. Here’s to hoping he’ll break my unfortunate streak?
So generally, I guess either they pick someone else over me or I realize that they’re not nearly as great as I’d imagined. Or I just get freaked out and back out of situations. That’s how things normally end. But I prefer writing about the good parts on my blog. I tell the bad parts to my friends.
